In Mindfulness, Wellness

If you’ve been around here for a while, you know I once ran life on empty. I was exhausted, stressed out, and overwhelmed for well way too long. 

I’m thankful I’ve found a different – better – healthier way to live life. When I look at how long I ran on empty, I can’t help but feel a heaviness in my heart. 

This heaviness, however, is what fuels me. It is the reason why I get up every day. You see, I believe God walked me through a season of life for me to share the wisdom and nuggets He is giving me. It is my prayer that these nuggets change how you live your life!

Today, I share with you an epiphany I had around why life was so stressful and exhausting for so many years. This epiphany came when I was listening to a Proverbs 31 podcast on perfectionism. 

If you struggle with perfectionism and looking to others for your self-worth, I encourage you to listen to this podcast! It serves as such a great reminder of the biblical truth around why you work and for whom you work. 

Click here for a link to this podcast. 

My Worth Was Wrapped Up in the Approval of Others 

As I listened to this podcast, God revealed yet another piece of the puzzle about why I lived life on empty for so many years. 

Not only was it because I was trying to do too much in my days, it was because I was striving to seek the approval of others. 

Ugh… that is so ugly, but so true!  

I expected myself to live out this picture-perfect life; one where I could successfully and easily navigate being a mother and a career women. I wanted to show others (and myself) that I could advance in my career and be a loving and fully present mom and wife. 

I held this dream so tightly that any deviation from it was seen as a failure.

Night and day, I worked to do better and accomplish more so that others would offer praise and acknowledgment. 

While praise did come, it never satisfied. It only turned into a deeper desire to do even more and to do it better.

Does this sound familiar? Do you find yourself working to win the approval from others? 

As I found out on a very personal level, living life this way is exhausting. 

The cycle of seeking praise and doing better never ends and the more you live for this approval, the greater the desire becomes. 

Before you know it, you find yourself so burnt out from running the rat race of never being good enough. 

Thank goodness, there is a better way.  

Work For the Approval of One

I am slowly learning that the only person I need to work for is God. It is Him and only Him that I need to seek for approval. And it is through God that I will find my worth. 

“For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” (Ephesians 2: 8-10).

“In him you also, when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation, and believed in him, were sealed with the promised Holy Spirit, who is the guarantee of our inheritance until we acquire possession of it, to the praise of his glory.” (Ephesians 1:13-14) 

Friends, I pray you use these verses remind you of why you work and to whom you turn for your worth. 

When you do this, you will find more joy and peace, and less stress. 

Now, that is how I want to live life! How about you? Are you with me? 

Praying you through,



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