Thrive is a word I use a lot. It is, after all, the name of my business and ministry. Thrive is not only how I want to live life, but it is how I want you to live life!
But, like everything in this world, in order to strive for something, you must first know what you are striving after.
I don’t think there is a person reading this post that doesn’t want to live a thriving life. After all, the brevity of life is noteable.
But, how exactly do you live a thriving life? How do you become a thriving women?
These are the questions I will be exploring over the next several weeks. I hope you will join me as I use biblical truth to lay the foundation for not only how to live life, but how to live it with abundance.
Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8 provides valuable wisdom on how to live.
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.”
How refreshing are these verses? Every time I read them, I find myself exhaling and asking myself, “You mean I don’t have to do it all?”
The quick answer to that question is, “No!” The long answer comes in understanding that for each season of life, responsibilities and tasks change.
I fully believe, that in order to live a thriving life, an adjustment to your priorities and tasks must be evaluated and acted upon so that you are not trying to do and be all to everyone!
Life is Full of Seasons
Life is full of seasons, isn’t it? There is a season of being a student, of being a wife, and then a mother. Later in life, your season is of being a caregiver to your aging parents.
Of course, life is not easily put into these neat, well-defined boxes, is it? While there may be times when you are only a student or only a wife, there are also many times when you are a student, wife, mother, and caregiver!
It is during these times that it is a must that you reevaluate your roles and responsibilities.
If you don’t spend time doing this, you end up continuing to do tasks you have always done. Rather than letting go of things that no longer serve you, you just continue to simply add on. Before you know it, you are drowning in life.
For years, this is how I lived. I was drowning, barely treading water. My head floated above and below the tidal wave of life for well over a decade. I was miserable.
When Andrew and I had our first child, there was not one inkling of thought that I should reevaluate my responsibilities to balance out the load of caring for an infant. I had an expectation of myself that I could “do it all.”
I didn’t doubt I could do it, I simply just did it.
However, year after year, and child after child, trying to keep up with the same responsiblities and tasks left me weary, exhausted, and stressed to the max.
It wasn’t until my body started breaking down from the chronic stress I was living in that I realized I had to make a change.
When I finally started slowing down and had time to process why life had been so tough, I realized it because I was trying to do too much.
I had placed expectations on myself that were not justified. Rather than reducing my responsiblitites to match the time it took to care for children, I simply added on to what I had already been doing.
Talk about exhausting!
Does this sound familiar to you? Do you too find yourself adding on to responsibilities rather than evaluating what exactly is your top priority during this season of your life?
Life is already too short. When you live it drowning, you suffer – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. But when you live to your season of life, you find abundance.
To thrive requires you to set and stick to the priorities that match your season of life.
So, what does this mean for you?
It means you spend time reevaluating your roles and responsibilities. There will inevitable be tasks you are carrying that you should not be.
Once you identify these tasks, it is time to begin eliminating them. This process takes time and a willingness on your part to ask the hard questions and to follow-through on eliminating that which no longer serves you today.
Reevaluating your tasks is not for the faint of heart. It requires you to be courageous as you go against societal expectations of what is expected out of women today.
However, simplifying your life by saying “No” is so freeing. You will no longer be drowning in duties, and you will begin to find the joy that escaped you long ago.
Friend, if you are ready to simplify your life by sticking to only those priorities important in your season of life, I have a free ebook that can walk you through the process. Take a look and spend just a few minutes a day walking through the process of simplifying your life.
From the bottom of my heart, I pray you choose to set and stick to only the priorities that match your season of life. When you do, you will find that you are no longer drowning, but joyfully swimming through life.
As always, if you have questions on how to do this, please send me an email! It would be an honor for me to help you simplify your days so that you too can be thriving.
Praying you through,